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Monday, March 31, 2025

Aunt Joan Was a Shenache

Outside Joan & Wayne's in Anaheim
Link to photo: https://photos.app.goo.gl/4VExf7zFzbrA19i26

Murphy Stuff To Share (MSTS)
- Dan

Now that I'm retired, I can stop and smell the memories. Here's one from (Shenache) Reenie on Aunt Joan.

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Shenache – keeper of the family tales
Clairvoyant/ Magical: read palms, tea leaves
Themes: God, family, Irish, Alanon, faith, the sea, California, fiercely loyal
The greatest generation that ever lived: depression baby and the wars
Courage and faith in all life’s experiences: Alanon, cancer, heart attack,
Born on Veteran’s Day.

Our Aunt Joan was a shenache, which is a word for an Irish storyteller. Though she never got the chance to travel to Ireland and kiss the Blarney Stone, she was indeed given the gift of weaving wonderful stories.

For us, she was the keeper of the family tales. Her eyes would twinkle as she would tell us stories about our Murphy and Kelly ancestors… some of whom we never knew…but were in the old photographs…. like the 7 Kelly sisters, and Black Jack Kelly. She brought her grandparents alive for us in her stories… Grandma Kelly was a woman’s rights activist long before it was fashionable… as Joan would describe her… she was tall, erect, smart, industrious, daring,  always dressed impeccably and modeled and thus expected good manners.  She took Spanish lessons, flying lessons, and even owned some valuable property in downtown Los Angeles. Joan always seemed a little in awe of her… who wouldn’t be? Then she would tell us about Grandma Murphy. She seemed a little eccentric…Joan often described her as short and wearing a funny little black coat and hat. She told us that Grandma would invite her to the movies, and they would ride the streetcar to the theater, when Joanie was about 12. Joan was a little embarrassed to be seen with her… and she was sorry to say that she even ditched her once by sitting in a different spot. When they met up after the movie, Grandma never mentioned it or ratted her out. Another story about Grandma Murphy involved my Dad. Dad was about 16 and tried his hand at making beer. Dad excitedly offered her a glass, and apparently it was really awful, but Grandma  never wanted to  burst my Dad’s bubble, so she was a good sport and drank it, saying something like “now that wasn’t too bad Jimmy for your first try.” Joan always admired her for her loyalty.

Joan told us how Grandpa Jim worked at Hennessey’s in Butte Montana in the haberdashery dept., and how when Grandpa Jim came by to call on Aggie, and invite her to go ice-skating, her Dad declared that was the man she was going to marry.

Her tales about family members were often filled with romance, tragedy and sometimes un-requited love. Like Aunt Imelda …..

Joan was fiercely loyal in her devotion to family. Sometimes, her stories may have been colored with that bias, but that made it all the more endearing. She always reminded us how lucky we were to be in such a loving family.

Joan was born on Veteran’s Day. She told us that when she was a little girl, Grandma Aggie would take her out in Los Angeles for her birthday and  tell her that the parades and flags were in her honor… she knew that she was special!  When Nancy and I went to visit her on her birthday in the convalescent hospital this past Veteran’s Day, Susan had decorated the room with banners and flags, and we reminded her that all the flags were up everywhere for her special day. I know she heard us, and she was pleased.

Our Aunt Joan was magical. She was born with special gifts of intuition, clairvoyance, and that 6th sense. She could read tea leaves, and after dinner, we often would finish up with a cup of tea and perform the ritual of turning the cup over in the saucer, and rotating the cup just so, for the “proper reading”. At family parties, it would not be unusual for the cousins to sit around waiting for their turn at having their palm read. Sometimes Joan would tell us that she had just that day spoken with relatives that had passed away. It was never scary, but rather comforting that they were always there with us. Who can ever forget the stories of our stay in the Bryant’s house in Cedar Rapids?  Joan had many “close encounters” in that place!

Joan was one of the most faith-filled women I will ever know. Her trust and faith in God was such an inspiration… deep, personal, and it sustained her throughout all her life. She would always tell us that we were in her prayers and I always knew that it was true… I felt it many times!  She always “God-blessed us” with a cross on the forehead as we were saying goodbye at the end of each visit.

Joan loved Alanon where she was able to put her faith into service and action. She often spoke at meetings and was a sponsor for many women throughout Orange County. Her Alanon background gave her a wisdom and empathy for family members, but strangers as well. She applied the 12 steps and principles to not only alcoholism, but to her everyday life. Her faith enabled helped her to survive breast cancer and a heart attack. Joan will always be a role model and I am proud to have witnessed her speaking at Alanon meetings. She always had them in the “palm of her hand”.

Joan was a member of “the greatest generation that ever lived”, as Tom Brokaw termed that era. She was a depression baby, so she knew the value of hard work and selflessness. She saw Wayne through the War and then settled to live the American Dream in Anaheim California. When they got the backyard pool, we had many happy family times there. Joan loved having us all over to enjoy the pool, and that even continued into the next generation. Our children have fond memories of going to Joan and Wayne’s to swim. Joan would often quote Grandpa Jim, “I don’t know what I did to deserve to live in California”. She loved to go to the beach, and take long walks; she was always renewed by the scent of the fresh salt air and the sound of the waves. It seemed to renew her spirits.

 Joan has always been a part of my life. We have pictures of Dan and me in our backyard in Anaheim holding our suitcases for an overnight stay at Joan and Wayne’s. Joan got Dan and I started in coin collecting, buying us our first collections books. When we moved to La Mesa, Joan and Wayne would often travel down for a weekend visit, holidays, birthdays, join us in San Clemente vacations, and of course, when the Bryants came, it was always family time.

When Nancy and I started teaching and lived on Balboa Island, Joan and Wayne would often have us over for a home-cooked meal, and Wayne would change the oil in our cars. They took such good care of us! We had fun having them over for the Christmas boat parades, and summer dinners at our apartment. They were always there for us… even meeting the boyfriends (future husbands). They continued their love and support with our own kids… they came to birthdays parties, baptisms, First Communions, Confirmations, Graduations… celebrating joyously all of life’s milestones with us.

Thursday, February 10, 2022

Family First

 


We just received a message from Monita:

There are now two more to be added to the February birthdays. Yesterday (February 8) Katie (Mark’s second daughter) and her husband, Jake Schroll welcomed Levi David  and Harper Marie. They were due in the middle of April but they admitted Katie to the hospital with high blood pressure with the hope of giving the babies steroids to strengthen their lungs but Katie developed pre-eclapsia which started to affect her kidneys so they performed a caesarean. Levi weighed 3 lbs. 11 oz. and Harper weighed 3 lbs. 8 oz. Not bad for being over two months early. I wonder what they would have weighed if they’d gone full term. Everyone is healthy and doing well.

Congratulations to ALL! đź’ź

BUT WAIT... THERE'S MORE:

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Molly Zive is getting married to Steven Sacro on 2/22/22đź’–

Molly is Michelle Murphy Zive's eldest daughter (Marty and Monita's granddaughter)... Lots happening in their family! We did a blog post way back on April 20, 2020 on Molly... the post was entitiled: "Apple Doesn't Fall Far From The Tree"; all about Molly's career as a licensed therapist in San Diego. (You can see it in our archives section on the side of this post.) 

Congratulations to the beautiful bride and groom to be!đź’‹đź‘Ź

They are getting married in Las Vegas, but extended this invitation to the family:

For anyone who wants to attend our wedding via live stream--- here is the link. You may want to copy and save it to paste into your browser on that date! It will be in the "wedding chapel" at 5pm on 2/22/22

  https://www.702wedding.com/live


There is a special significance to this once-in-a-lifetime date! Click on this fun link to check it out! 

Susan Thornburg's birthday is also on this date!

FAMILY IS EVERYTHING! 
And I am grateful for ours!
LYMđź’ź

Tuesday, February 1, 2022

Happy Lunar New Year!

 

                                                  https://www.pinterest.com/c_nhu/year-of-the-tiger/

Happy Lunar New Year  - February 1, 2022

Tigers stand for strength, power, courage, and ambition. The animal represents a symbolic release of fears and standing for truth, justice, and integrity.

Boy, we can sure use some of this in the coming year!

These are the February family birthdays that were sent to me 💓🎂

We have one today! Happy Birthday, Brie!

2-1 Brie Galvin (Mark & Joelene Murphy's daughter)

2-4 is the remembrance of Dan Perez' birthday; (Cheryl and Danny's son; Michelle's grandson) Dan is celebrating in heaven...Rest in Peace, Dan!

2-6 There are 2 birthdays: Terry Llewellyn & Valerie Musser (of "Cooking with Lenny fame on the blog last year)  (Cindy's daughter; Michelle's granddaughter)

2-9 Charlene Lujan (a Schueller cousin)

2-12 There are 3 birthdays: Megan Murphy (Mark and Joelene's daughter) and Tommy and Riley Angel (Jennifer and Abe's twins; Melda & Tom's grandkids)

2-22 Susan Thornburg 

2-23 Everly Moore (Melia & Travis' daughter; Chris Beckwith's granddaughter)

2-28 Tom Arick (Melda's husband) turns 70 this year!

We are made for relationships! LYM đź’“


Monday, January 31, 2022

Patrick Murphy turns back Moscow

We can't promise that we will post as diligently as we did in 2020, but Dan put this up today. Thanks Luke and Dan! Feisty Irishmen!

It reminded me of a great movie recommendation: Fisherman's Friends. It is great fun... all about fishermen who lived in Cornwall England and sang "Sea Shanties" and were discovered and became famous! (60's - 70's) My friend, Sandy is from Cornwall, and her niece was married on the beach in Port Isaac (where this was filmed) a few years back,  and had the Fisherman sing Sea Shanties on the beach at her wedding! True story!

Calling all February birthdays: 🎂Please email me the family birthdays in February, so that we can post them... will try to do this each month going forward! I will post them tomorrow! maureenrenden@gmail.com. LYM Reenie



Patrick Murphy

Thank you Luke for the news about the Irish in County Cork prevailing on Putin to relocate his naval exercises away from their fishing community on the Beara Peninsula, home of our Murphy clan. Click CNN link. Here's the url to paste into a browser if that link doesn't work:
https://www.cnn.com/2022/01/31/europe/ireland-fishermen-russia-navy-intl/index.html

Here's a link to an earlier story -- copy and paste into a browser too:
https://www.irishtimes.com/news/politics/russian-drills-off-irish-coast-not-welcome-says-simon-coveney-1.4784438

Thursday, January 27, 2022

Thanks for the prayers

 

50 years


January 27, 2022

Hard to believe that Dad has been gone 50 years... a solemn anniversary, for sure. 
I love this photo; one of my favorites of Dad swinging the golf club in the front yard of the La Mesa house! 
I picture him golfing in many gorgeous courses throughout the world...Ireland, Scotland, Augusta Georgia, Maui Hawaii, in Pebble Beach and of course... Torrey Pines! His choice! 
Rest in peace Dad... till we meet again! Gotcha Last and Love You More!đź’“

Dan emailed me this morning with this message:
"While cleaning up my browser website bookmarks, I noticed that the last post to the family blog was Reenie's request for prayers for Jan. I decided to tie off that thread with a post today. Feel free to share. The blog is open for business again! :-) Lots going on."  

Well... I am so rusty... I had to re-educate myself as to how to post!

Thanks, Dan for this  beautiful post!

I am taking a biospiritual workshop and the reminder was that we are made for relationships!
Though this is such a dark and challenging time... it is important to stay connected!

We offer our deepest condolences to not only Dan, but also to Lynn Weddington Welly, as her husband,  Michael passed away earlier this month. 

Dan sent me a video that his parish made as a tribute for the families of parishoners who passed this past year.
It was set to the most beautiful song: Saints and Beloved of God

With rusty loves... I love you all more! 
Reenie


A few of my favorite memories of Janice Kathryn Murphy
Twenty years ago

Shooting Easter egg hunt


The sisters

The wedding

Vienna

Good times, good memories, much gratitude, for Jan, for you, for my family, for your prayers and support. Lots to look forward to, and to share with Jan in my heart.

With love,
Dan

Wednesday, June 9, 2021

Calling All Prayer Warriors

 

Dear Family,

Dan and Jan would appreciate all your love and prayers right now.  Jan has been diagnosed with cancer in her spine. She has had radiation treatments and is currently undergoing more tests. Luke and Claudia, and then Stephen, have been able to come and help, and Jan's longtime friends will be there in the upcoming week. 

It is such a surreal and challenging time for all... if you wish to send a card, their address is:

2 Willow Springs Lane 

Moraga CA 94556

We will keep you updated... in the meantime... prayers would be wonderful!

LYM! đź’“